AB’s Needs List

A streamlined, personalized version of an NVC List of Needs for a Buddhist.

Security

  • Consistency
  • Order/Structure
  • Peace (external)
  • Peace of mind
  • Protection/Safety (emotional)
  • Stability
  • Trust

Freedom

  • Autonomy
  • Choice
  • Ease
  • Power in my world
  • Self-responsibility
  • Space

R&R

  • Fun
  • Humor
  • Irreverence
  • Play/Fun
  • Rejuvenation
  • Relaxing

Connection

  • Attention
  • Gratitude
  • Harmony
  • Intimacy
  • Love
  • Nurturing
  • Support
  • Tenderness
  • Warmth

Mattering

  • Acceptance
  • Care
  • Consideration
  • Empathy
  • Kindness / metta
  • Mourning
  • Respect
  • To be heard, seen
  • To be trusted
  • Understanding others

Community

  • Belonging
  • Equality
  • Inclusion
  • Mutuality
  • Partnership
  • Self-expression

Sense of Self

  • Authenticity
  • Creation
  • Dignity
  • Growth
  • Healing
  • Honesty
  • Integrity
  • Mastery
  • Mattering to self
  • Self-acceptance
  • Self-care
  • Self-respect
  • Self-trust/Confidence
  • Virya (effort, energy)

Understanding

  • Awareness
  • Clarity
  • Discovery
  • Learning

Meaning

  • Contribution
  • Creation
  • Effectiveness
  • Exploration
  • Purpose

Mysterium Tremendum

  • Beauty
  • Blame-free
  • Compassion
  • Equanimity
  • Faith
  • Flow
  • Hope
  • Humility
  • Inspiration
  • Joy with others
  • Liberation
  • Nature
  • Non-attachment
  • Presence
  • Simplicity